Robert Kuok thanks Malaysians for supporting him

PETALING JAYA: Billionaire Robert Kuok has thanked Malaysians for speaking up and supporting him after he came under criticism following allegations published against him in an online portal.

Blogger Raja Petra Kamarudin had posted three articles on his Malaysia Today website in February, alleging that Kuok, also known as the “Sugar King”, was funding various political parties to overthrow the Government.

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Kindness Is Differential Blindness

If life has taught me anything it is that I am selfish. I’m being honest. I don’t see very well at times. But times when I do see well, I’m prone to going my own way. I like to agree with those who think like me, and I tend to judge people who think differently.

I am not very kind at times. Indeed, I think it is more the case that kindness is something I’ve had to work on. It isn’t something that comes naturally. I think this is the case for most of us.

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Delighting In Dealing With Difficult People

You sense it straight away, booking an appointment over the phone.

The person on the other end is efficient if not a little curt. With every second it seems there is a heightening urgency in their voice. You feel as if you’re being intentionally problematic for them, even though you’re diligently polite.

Then, out rolls the statement that confirms it really is all your fault: “Well, we really aren’t getting anywhere here, are we?” It’s like they’re saying, “You are a very difficult person to help!”

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Three Ways to Ease the Prohibitive Conscience

If our key formative relationships featured manipulation, because it was an easy way to control us, we may have developed what can be termed a prohibitive conscience – a conscience based in fear, operating out of guilt. Likewise, if we have encountered people who are controlling, and we haven’t been brought up in such a way, such manipulation can be jarring.

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Abuse and the Eggshell Skull Rule

It suddenly occurred to me, having written “a difference between a victim and a survivor”, that there is subjectivity out there regarding who can legitimately claim they have been abused. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that I have just learned about the eggshell skull rule.

It’s worth knowing about. This is a technical description of the Eggshell Skull Rule:

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Betray Someone – What Happens?

Someone may feel you have betrayed them. Did you do or fail to do something? It is not so difficult to renege on a personal undertaking. We also betray a fellow worker if we take credit for their work. Or if we fail to stick up for them when someone unfairly criticises them behind their back. I could betray a friend’s trust if I were to gossip about an embarrassing personal matter he or she confided in me.

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Intimacy: Can Someone Be Unaware Of Their Own Fear Of Intimacy?

If someone has the desire to be in an intimate relationship, they may find that it is only a matter of time before they meet the right person. Alternatively, they may find that they are only able to get so far.

The months will then pass and this area of their life won’t change, causing them to experience a lot of frustration. There is even the chance that a number of years will pass and this area of their life still won’t change.

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Relationships: Can Someone’s Inner Critic Cause Them To Put Up With Abusive Behaviour?

If one is used to spending time around people who are abusive, they can come to the conclusion that they are a victim. It is then not that one is playing a part in what is taking place; it is that this is just how their life is.

So, while these people will have control over their own life, there is going to be absolutely nothing that they can do to change their life. Consequently, it is likely to be normal for them to feel totally powerless.

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